Just going over a few things in my head: H is having an afair with a married woman with 4 children.She is highly educated, just like him. They have both worked together for about 10 years, having an affair for 5 or those. She is married to a man who H works with! They 'seem' like a lovely family and are very active on facebook, regularly showing smily, happy family pics. She is definately not 'affair down' material.
This is what makes me think this may not be MLC. H has all the typical signs of MLC, like wanting to escape, depression and emptiness, yet he still seems caring, in that he wants me to succeed in my business and has supported me financially really well and I believe he will continue to do so, despite facing another round of redundancy at work.
He has told me many times that she is not 'the one', meaning they don't connect in the areas H is interested in, like music, film, etc., only in work related stuff so I think he is using this affair as an exit affair - ie. a way to leave our marriage. I don' think it bodes well for a happy ending!
Does anyone else have this experience with their MLCers?
Married Dec. 1997 EA discovered April 2011 H lived at home until August 10th 2015 Separated August 10th 2015 kids aged 8. 14 and 15 I think we're done.
