*need help*

[Zues126]

I could have been nicer but it's either I better do what he says or he gets nasty..they bully me then expect me to do what they want when and how they want it or I'm the bad person..i feel like I shouldn't have to be around her and I sure don't respect either one of them and I'm appalled that he demanded I respect her..i sure hope I never have to go through this again.and I live in a southern state that has alligators and a whole lot of other critters so I'm used to that lol

The green was you owning you.
The 'but' was you deflecting from your behavior.
The red was you spewing at WAH.

Does it help to see it when it's in color?

Maybe it would help to look at it as a thought experiment. Suppose this happened to someone else, a friend of yours, who happened to be supremely confident, gracious, cool, calm, and collected. How might she have responded to some of these comments from WAH?

Barbie, I am pushing you on this because WAH isn't your problem. You're right, you won't have to live with him again, he'll be stuck with who he is for the rest of his life. But you'll be stuck with who you are for the rest of your life too, and the consequences it brings. Challenge yourself to some hard work.

The good news is not only will positive change make your life better, it will ease the suffering because you'll have something to show for it, and the loss that occurred will feel more and more like it happened to someone else thanks to growth.

PS- JEALOUS of gators.