Look. You're going to lose a lot. Your WAH. Your in-laws. Your ability to have children full time, and to co-parent with someone that you have a loving relationship with. It's a huge loss, probably more than you can even imagine (although it gets easier to deal with!).
When you lose this much, it's a good idea to gain something from it. Who are you going to be when you get free?
Take a look at your exchange with H. Focus just on what you did and said. Which qualities don't have a place in your life in the future?
One thing I told my team when I was a manager: There's right and wrong, but there's a right way and a wrong way to handle what's right and wrong.
For example, if someone cuts you off in traffic and you shoot them, you're reaction was worse then their behavior.
Clearly your H isn't doing much that's righteous right now...but focusing on your reaction, how do you feel you could've improved your response?
DBing is all about changing dynamics by changing yourself. "It takes ONE to tange". Change yourself and your relationships with other HAVE to change. You can do it.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
