I plan to continue the path of growth I'm on. I have become a much better father and Home maker(cleaning and caring or my house). My next step like you said is to work on becoming a stronger more attentive person for the future, with or w/o my W. I know I have a long way to go to improve my communication and patience skills. I used to and still get frustrated easily with my W during tough talking points. At this moment it doesnt seem like my W is going to stop this path she has chosen. So like you said I must plan to continue my path of growth and self improvement. Because I want to be this better person I can see myself as.
Although I am not sure how to go about working in my Self esteem. That has been a lifelong issue for me. Bullying and divorced poor quality parents. (One is an alcoholic the other is a sexist pothead) left me without much support as a child and my adult life and relationships have suffered for it. I retreated to video games from a young age and had stayed there most if ny life. If nothing else I am thankful for my W and this OOM. Because the shock of it all and my attempt to win her back has removed the veil from my eyes and allowed me to see that I don't need the VGs to make me happy. I can function much better in life w/o them. I just hope I can keep these changes going. If nothing else at least for my kids sake. They deserve better parents than I had or than I was.
