Have i been making mistakes too long part 5

[dwh15]

So again, I need some advise.

I there such thing as a mid life depression versus a MLC. Its seems that the W is in deep depression at this point. As I stated in the last post, she is not reverting to a teenager like most ive read about here. I know that I cant fix it but I cant help wanting to label the problem. we haven't talked much and I feel myself slipping away.

Never heard of a mid-life depression but seems as reasonable as anything else. But you already know what everyone is going to tell you; it's just a label and doesn't change anything. You act the same regardless of what you wanna call it. I know what you mean about slipping away, but again, don't assume that feeling is permanent. I have felt myself slipping away, sometimes days at a time, then out of the blue feel as strongly as ever that I want my WW back. It's part of the coaster and will take a very long time to settle down. You're nowhere near the end of the ride.

I have been talking to a friend (who happens to be female) from high school. I am not interested in her romantically and she recently went through a divorce and has been helpful. Is this wrong. I feel kind of guilty for talking to her but she seems to understand what I am going through. She has given me some good advise but has also given me some bad advise. Example she thinks that I have waited long enough for my W to reconsider and that I should probably throw in the towel.

Im a little worried that she may be interested in me for more than just friends. I have told her that I am not interested in any R other than my M and she agrees but something doesn't feel right. Should I cut this communication off? I don't want to hurt her feelings but its making me feel guilty. What is an emotional affair? Is talking to an old friend who happens to be a female and emotional affair?

I am really torn on this because I do enjoy talking with her but if she has something different in mind, I feel I need to cut the communication.

It sounds to me like this could potentially be a dangerous path. If your friend is recently D, then I would say there's a good chance she is interested in being more than friends. I've recently come to the conclusion myself that there is no such thing as "just friends" between a man and woman when both are single, or at least it's extremely rare. Maybe one of the two wants to be friends, but in most cases at least one is interested in more, especially as time goes on and you spend more time together. If that's not you in this case, then guess who it is?

I understand having a previous connection, and having her be a sympathetic ear, but if you are serious about wanting to save your M, I would suggest you minimize contact with your female friend. You don't have to be mean or rude about it, and can still have contact, but try not to delve into your M and feelings too much. If you start openly discussing emotions, that's when you begin to cross the line into an EA yourself, and it's a slippery slope from there into full blown PA. As long as you're interesting in saving your M, I would focus friendship efforts on other men, not on single women. Hang in there.