Looking for opinions. When H moved out he left a lot of stuff. Some stuff still in the garage and a bunch in his basement workshop.
He says it's still there because his back/shoulder have been hurt. I also think he is out of storage space.
I have not made a big deal about it. Not harassing him about his stuff is a big 180 for me. But I'm worried I'm not setting a firm enough boundary. I have asked him to move or organize the stuff in garage on Sept. 13 (the next day it is convenient for me. I wonder how much I should push?
Before we put the house on the market it will have to all go. There is nothing legal that says he has to move anything.
Also, if I am being completely honest having his stuff here feels like I still have a connection.
beckyb, you sound torn between keeping the stuff and insisting he moves it out.
You've told him a date and that's all you need to do for now, when you get closer to it you can choose to either remind it or let it slip. If you make a decision now and articulate it to him, you may regret it or it puts you in a difficult, inflexible position, so hold off, give yourself time to think and re-evaluate where you stand, when it's clearer in your mind, does that make sense?
Get your thinking back onto you, what have you done today that's for beckyb?
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