HJ, you're kidding yourself, and I think you already know it. That is not a way to "reduce pressure", it only adds yet another pressure. I can only imagine how such a thing would make a LD spouse feel - and it wouldn't be good. How could anyone be thankful for a "solution" that rubbed their nose in their "deficiencies"?
If the marriage really is at a total impasse, and both partners are not committed to working on the R, then it might (MIGHT!) be time to end it and try to move on, but only when all hope is gone. I take my marriage vows very seriously, which is why I'm willing to invest so much time and energy in trying to resolve the issues at hand.
