Start with Deborah Schermans article in Psycology today, why you don't always have to forgive. This wonderful writer is a criminal profiler, the real deal so involved with the survivors and relatives of crime.

The book is Jeanne Safer: Forgive and Not Forgive. It's out of print and available in Kindle version.I love this book and as the spouse of a compulsive gambler and being a participant in Gamanon I was looking for a philosophy on forgiving that I can live with and advise others it's ok not to forgive, I often hear some terrible things in 12 steps and others feel guilty for not forgiving, which re victimises the survivor, sod that!

It's up to each to manage their journey and sometimes forgiveness requires remorse and atonement.

Other books to consider are People of the Lie by Scott Peck, which is a book about ordinary evil. Then there is Mans Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl which is about the best of human spirit.

Hope this helps.

Exactly what is it about forgiving that troubles you?

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Last edited by Vanilla; 09/03/15 08:21 PM.
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