Thanks for answering especially with all that you have going on. And good news on the range rover!
That conversation sounded pretty good especially as it was probably more than the cumulative conversation I've had with my XW since she moved out.
Two things though that I'm going to pull you up on, but just because I don't want you getting complacent :p
1) OM reared his head again without you actually mentioning him. I don't believe he is an OM in a traditional sense I think he is much more likely just another lost soul. But either way you have to slay that particular demon of yours either through forgiveness or reframing (and your actions need to show your EXW you have). That doesnt mean accepting him but rather that he doesn't matter.
2) this:
Originally Posted By: RD500
Rd I have to ask , did you make the right choice in leaving ? EXW Some days yes , some days no. I try not to think about it Rd. ok well I have to go. Take care
You asked her a question (which maybe you shouldnt have) but when she started to answer you pulled, veritably slammed the shutter down on her. Once you asked I feel you should have put on your best giraffe ears and listened. It may have been hard to hear but really listening to someone can bring its own rewards.
they are minor things but I'm a big believer in marginal gains.
anyway have a good evening RD.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
