New post (was MLC w/EA possible PA) and confused.

[kyrie]

Ugh. Sunday was our anniversary. I did the opposite of what DB says to do... I got him a gift (expensive one that I knew he wanted). He rejected it and accused me of "the same old thing - no thought, no planning". Which is completely false. It was backordered, so I wrote a silly note about appreciating his patience but it was coming. I ordered it weeks before. I know you can't "buy" their love, etc. I thought it would be the right thing to do. Of course, he got me nothing and I threw that in his face, more or less. So 100% bad, backwards action there.
Then Monday, the OW calls out of the blue while we were watching a show. He goes out & talks to her, comes back in to make a drink and runs into me. He said it shouldn't take long & "it's not like it used to be". After the call ended much later, he comes in to say, "If you have something constructive to say then say it, otherwise I'm tired". I said, "I'll say this as succinctly as possible: if you care about our marriage then you will stop communicating with her".
He paused for a long time then walked away. It got ugly later. Ugh. I feel like I've just taken 1000 steps backwards.
It's actually been quiet since then though. Trying to "reset" and get back on track.