WAH, in the thick of divorce

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One of my worst fears about this whole process came to fruition yesterday. I got to my son’s school and he wasn’t there! He was picked up by my MIL early and no one informed me. I am supposed to be able to see him for a few hours every Wednesday until H gets off work and if I can’t do it then it his responsibility to find another person. I NEVER want to feel the way I did at that moment ever again. Plus I was extremely embarrassed when the director told me he had already been picked up.

I immediately called my MIL to see what was going on. She informed me that H told her that the parenting plan stated that he was supposed to find someone to pick up S on Wednesdays. I wasn’t upset with her, I know she was just doing what H instructed her to do. I knew he was going to pull something like this because of the comments he made during the heated meeting a few weeks ago. His excuse was “since your whole argument for not giving me 50/50 was the number of transitions for S then I figured I would just make that problem go away.” I replied “you are right, my concern was for that to happen multiple times a week, multiple times a month. I compromised to that only happening once a week. If I have the ability to see S and spend time with him then I am going to take it. 50% of his time is already being taken away from both of us. Having your Mom pick him up is convenient for you right now because you are living with them, I am concerned with when you live alone.”

I just can’t help but feel that this was a spiteful, vindictive, act by him to get back at me. (I know I shouldn’t mind read) He said it won’t happen again and I really want to believe him. I called my MIL and explained that I wasn’t upset with her and that if in the future I can’t get him or if she wants to pick him up early then she needs to reach out to me and then notify me and H that our son was picked up and was safe. I do not think it is too much to ask. I have asked my sister and mother to do the same.

I am still so shaken up by this, plus I missed him terribly last night. I am leaving in 4 days on vacation and won’t see him for an entire week, I really wanted some extra snuggles this week.

I HATE DIVORCE!