The vets will chime in, but I would not tell her she looks great. Look good yourself and don't hang on to drag out chat. If W wants to then OK, but need to be as if it is not so important to you and when handing kid over you should be on your way out to something fun.

Read the threads here esp what cadet has posted. Post more of your story for people to give feedback.

Good luck

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together