I'm going to ask another question but as always feel free to ignore, I don't want to push too far.
When EXW gave you the ILYBNILWU speech, how accurately can you remember what she said? Because if I recall she said she wanted you to stay together just with conditions.
I accept what she's done probably has hurt you more than her because after all, much if it was her choice. But I think if you tried to rerun the situation from her perspective with all you now know about depression and MLC etc. I think you would see she never meant to hurt you, she's just lost and confused and afraid.
And even if she's none of that its better to try and view her actions from that perspective.
I guess I just want you to find a way to forgive her regardless of whether and what she has lied about. You don't have to agree with her choices but instead try to understand how she might have come to that point.
For the record, the forgiveness is for you more than anything as its RD that I want to see happy (reconciled with EXW or not). Personally I find even the effort of trying helps me find a little more peace
Right, I'll shut up now before I completly outstay my welcome.
Have a good evening
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
