Need advice for a WW who left Part 3

[dwh15]

Well, pretty strange day. Work went fine again and I had a meeting with the school to discuss S10 at 4pm. WW had come to my house at 2pm so spend some time with the kids, then joined me at the school to attend the meeting. It lasted about an hour, then we both hung out in the parking lot after and talked for about 20 minutes. Mostly about S10, but also slipped into some conversation about how she had been spending her time and what I had been doing. It was really nice and the most comfortable we had been around each other in several weeks.

WW mentioned coming back to the house to pick up S10 and take him to dinner, since she rarely spends quality time with him. I told her it was a good idea, said I had to get going but to let me know. She called a few minutes later saying she was coming to get him. In the mean time, I had headed home, and noticed that when she was here earlier, she had taken 2 jewelry boxes, which mostly had her jewelry, but also had my wedding ring and some critical paperwork, such as titles to all our vehicles, SS cards for the kids, etc.

Well, I was upset that she simply took this w/o even asking, so confronted her when she came to get S10. I tried not to be mean about it, but said I wanted my wedding ring returned and all the paperwork. She got defensive and said that she had as much right to the kids SS cards as me. I decided not to escalate, but asked her to please check for my ring, and look through the paperwork and return anything that belongs to me. We were both getting snappy and she left with S10.

She sends a TM about 30 min later asking if I had plans to get the kids new backpacks or lunch boxes for school. I happened to be busy getting trained up bartending and didn't see the TM for about an hour. In the mean time, she had sent another one a few min later with just 2 question marks, like she was annoyed I didn't reply. When I finally saw the TMs, I replied sorry, I did not see them earlier and told her I had no plans for backpacks. I also sent a quick sorry for getting upset earlier and asked her again to just look for my wedding ring. No reply back.

I got home around 11pm, found out she had dropped off S10 around 9:30 and had taken him to dinner and out shopping. He got a new t-shirt and lunchbox. She also got a t-shirt for S8. They were both excited. So I sent WW a TM thanking her for getting those things and told her the kids seemed happy. Got a quick reply that she was glad, and that was it.

So overall sort of a mixed day of emotions. I enjoyed the convo in the parking lot, but the good feelings didn't last long when I realized about her taking the stuff, and got angry. The highs and lows are not nearly as bad as a few weeks ago but still bouncing around. I just can't figure out what I want. Sometimes I just think it would be easier to be friends with her, assuming I can totally let go of any hope for R. I feel myself moving towards that but not ready yet. I'm much stronger now about setting boundaries and sticking to them, so I'm not worried about being taken advantage of by WW, but I still think she would probably try to use me to her advantage if we went the "friends" route.

Ugh. The good news is I really enjoyed the bartending, got to know a lot more people, and everyone is really getting to know me. I even got hit on by a fairly attractive woman, but she had been drinking all night. Made me feel good anyway. So I'm heading to bed mostly feeling pretty good about the day. Hoping for a peaceful night's rest and another positive day tomorrow.