You recently posted on my sitch and I really appreciated your point of view. I truly understand your state of shock and not knowing which way to go after 25y of marriage. I feel the same. I have over 30yrs and wonder often how the ef I got here. I believe my H too is very depressed but unlike your W he will not get help.
One thing I will suggest that has really helped me find my old self is GALing. Both with friends and with my kids. You really just need to schedule something a couple of times a week. Otherwise you get consumed with the house work and you will find that you are not growing and experiencing. I visited Ireland many years ago and it seems that there is a very active social scene with many pubs and singing and dancing. You ought to try it.
You are so lucky to have your kids. I don't know what I would have done this past year without the support and love of my kids.
Time is a healer. And it sounds like you and your W have a good chance of reconciliation with some additional time.
Hang in there and thanks for stopping by my sitch.
