To Pursue or Not #2

[Arcola]

Hi all. I'm not intentionally trying to DB my sitch anymore, but I am trying to move on as best I can. I don't know what to think of W's email reply to me today. Is this good or bad? Just wondering?

Talk in regards to kids activities led up to the relationship talk. That stuff has been removed. Also, a few notes:
-we aren't seeing a counselor together or alone, I'm not seeing anyone, but she knows I have been with 2 women since I confirmed she was in a PA. I never brought these women around my kids nor do they know of them.
-On a couple of occasions I've had to visit my kids and OM was there. I've had to out of nowhere hear one or more of my kids talk about OM. I've seen OM and her with kids about town.
-we're moving slow as a snail dividing major assets (house, cars, etc.)

-----Original Message-----
From: Wife
Sent: Tuesday, September 01, 2015 2:40 PM
To: Arcola
Subject: RE: HI



I was just talking to the counselor this morning and acknowledging that we seem to talk less and less as time goes on. I don't know if it's because I am seeing someone and that's still something that is hard to deal with or if it's because you might be seeing someone, if it's that we're avoiding the fact that we eventually need to talk and work something out or if it's that we are mad at one another. I just don't know. I feel like I try to talk to you and keep communication open but I don't really get much back so I start to feel like I talk too much and maybe you don't want to hear it anyway. Maybe like you said, you just don't have anything to say to me and maybe I'm expecting too much. Okay I'm rambling and as I reread that first part I realize that I have over used the word "maybe".


-----Original Message-----
From: Arcola
Sent: Tuesday, September 01, 2015 2:05 PM
To: Wife
Subject: RE: HI

My apologies for not responding to how I was doing, but I'm doing good and
everything is okay. Yeah, I agree we don't talk much. Most of the time I
don't have much to say unless its in regards to the kids. I appreciate you
scheduling their appointments and all. When it comes to the dentist I don't
consider that until there's an obvious issue. I haven't forgot about
so and so birthday and my apologies for not responding to that subject from
your text this weekend. So and so dad texted me during lunch that he'd be in town
and about the party for his son. I do plan on going to his party, but as far
as riding with everyone or driving myself I'm not sure yet. I was thinking
about visiting/staying in such and such city Sat. night, but I'm not sure yet.


-----Original Message-----
From: Wife
Sent: Tuesday, September 01, 2015 1:33 PM
To: Arcola
Subject: RE: HI



I know we seem to be talking less and less, I don't know if you feel that
way or if it's just me, I just was wondering how you are doing and if
everything is okay?