My Reader's Digest Version

[Azzork]

I'm on my phone so it's tough to do fancy quotes. But here are some thoughts.

1) you said he needs time to heal. How does pursuing him right now give him the time and space to do that? How is giving him that space mean "not meeting his needs"?

2) counter-INTUITIVE is not the same as counter-PRODUCTIVE

3) you have GAL backwards. It helps you BECOME cheery. How are you going to become cheery sitting in a lonely house?

4) buried up there you have the key: focus on changing you.