Hi Jim. I always know you words are written from the very best place
My goal , like so many others , was for a reconciliation and for my family to be whole again As time goes on I realise that this is t possible so my goal now is to become happy again. i have always been reasonably happy and I don't need more than I have to become happy again.
The GAL thing is not for me at the moment , I wil look into some cooking classes but realistically I'm happy enough spending time with the kids and looking after the house
Goals for life are the norm , security financially Health and happiness. I don't have the first yet but it's on the horizon ,health My new kidney is doing well and that just leaves the happy part
Your words re forgiveness resonate with me. Forgiveness may not be possible but time can heal a lot. It also depends on how I look at what happened On one hand EXW came to me with ILYBNILWU speech but asked for us to remain together OM may or may not be a factor but either way she lied and continues her friendship. I do think rather than forgive it may be easier to accept she was telling the truth re no R with OM but move on accepting that there is no way forward for any R with EXW other than a co parenting one
Your words re EXW hurting herself as much as me really made me think and while it might not be 100% true , she certainly isn't overly happy
Life has taken this turn and whatever happens next will happen. If I've learnt anything from this experience it's that I have no control over anyone other than me and I'm glad for that I was a fixer and leapt in where I proberbly wasn't needed
