First, this post feels like a lot of you pointing out her problems. You point out here that shes going "crazy" and doesnt understand the "truth".
1. One day I came home. I bike commute and usually get home around 6:30. She had cooked dinner but burned mine. She turned on the stove and forgotten while she went and did something else. To me, I laugh, I'll eat anything and she burns dinner occasionally and I find it endearing. But I remember this day I said to her, "What?! Are you trying to poison me?" and then I took my dinner and sat down and ate.
Later, when I found her journal, she had written: "Today, my husband accused me of poisoning him." That's it. That was the journal entry.
2. I bike commute and after a couple years of bike neglect I took it into the shop for repair. My bike needed about $500 in repairs. I looked at my bank account and realized we have $1100 in bills due I'd be $200 short until the next pay day. So, I asked my wife to borrow $200 so I could pay the entire $1600 on time.
Again, when I read her journal she had stated: "My husband doesn't support our family financially. Today he asked to borrow money to pay $1600 in bills. I had to give it to him."
But, what I'm really looking for is an explanation to lying during divorce by the WAW to create that "reality" for her you are talking about.
Im confused. Which of these is a lie?
A very wise woman once told me that no matter how flat you make a pancake, there are always two sides. Youre giving me your side. Im sure she has a side too. But to me, you are seeing the situation one way, and she is seeing it another way. But I dont see hers as "wrong" and yours as "right."
In general, the WAW/WW is going to use anything that she can use to make her feel like what she is doing is justified. YOU as the LBS are her ENEMY. You are her BARRIER to true happiness. So, she is looking at every situation with a different shade of glasses than you are.
Thats why a lot of advice here is to take the focus off of her. You cant control her. You cant control her reality. All you can do is validate her opinions and feelings. To her, they ARE the truth. Doesnt mean you need to agree with them. But trying to CHANGE them is like trying to break through a wall with your head.
I see in your posts a lot of you trying to show you are "right" and she is "wrong". I dont think you will get very far with that attitude.
