Quote: Hi Rottzilla, I hope I didn't imply that I thought your concerns were silly
Of course not...
Quote: It sounds to me like maybe your H has VERY strong feelings for you, and that the touching and eye contact reinforces those. Right now he seems kind of scared of his feelings, so maybe he avoids them by avoiding the intimacy that comes from the touch and eye contact?
I agree. I guess I am not being PATIENT if I don't let him come around in his own time. I see from his actions that he loves me, but he still maintains that he doesn't.
Quote: what makes the difference for a guy from wanting one or the other??????
I think I can answer this. It seems from several guys that I asked that ML does not lead to love, but if a man already feels love, then ML does reinforce those feelings and let them grow stronger.
To directly answer your question, sometimes a man just needs a physical release. This is actual physiology, not psychology. The buildup of fluids in a man's prostrate actually is uncomfortable and a man feels the drive to release. This is one reason why they masturbate, as a physical release. But, if they can feel the same with you, by having straight sex, and don't feel pressure to make more of it than what it is, then rejoice. They feel comfortable with you. It's a good thing (if you are in love) I think to sometimes ML and sometimes have sex. Many times a man will masturbate because he just wants physical release and not the emotions involved, along with having to put out energy to please another person, worry about his performance, etc.
Quote: Something else I wonder about: within the last 2 months, H is just absolutely "wiped out" after ML (but not so much after "just sex")....he will even say "I can hardly move"
I would say this can be anything. Only you are there so only you can determine what the truth is. Is he old and slowing down in other areas? Is he emotionally wiped out? Possibly.
