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[SParker]

Thanks for posting-EMM.

No, he doesn't have family around. They do speak on the phone though. We moved away to live at my family farm after I inherited from my mother. His main support now is a couple of pastors he is close with in our town.

"As if he was telling me" ROFL!!! He's Puerto Rican... of course he's told me, and told me, ect.
So many to list... here goes a few.
1. I interpret everything wrong! His words, actions, intentions, everything
*My 180- mirroring his statements so I don't 'get it wrong' and trying to distance emotionally.
2. I'm too critical of him. (This goes SO deep.)
*My 180- Getting a PMA, stepping back and biting my tongue for now. Also, giving up all control (acceptance) which is a really tough one for me.
3. I hate 8 out of 10 people. (This one has disappeared, but was a big one.)
*My 180- Having a PMA and learning to validate.

I am learning very quickly that when I don't agree with him to just keep my mouth shut, but I still have slips.

He does seem to be noticing changes, I think he's just hesitant to trust any permanence.

I do feel blessed as my situation could be so much worse off. I should probably work on having more patience.
Adding that to the endless list now.

Any insights are appreciated.