In reading through your posts, I am encouraged in my own sitch. It seems you have came a long, long way already and are feeling impatient for results. I'm definitely no expert, but I am a woman. Could your W be acting out of her need for physical intimacy that you have been restraining from? IDK, maybe a ? for someone more qualified than I am. I know the program works well, but isn't there flexibility for different situations, couples, needs, ect? I don't know if this should be considered or not.
My 2 cents- piggy bank now empty!
Me:46 H:42 T:7 M:5 MD(H SD):24 MS(H SS):19 MS(H SS):13 Separated on & off most of '15 WAH last left 8/15 WAH changed locks & Bank account of joint business 8/15