Self Fulfilling Prophecy-I'm ready!!!

[rottzilla]

Thanks, guys. Looks like this thread is still open, so I guess I will keep posting here until I am locked out. The other thread is open and I'll move over there when I'm finally locked out.

Last night was pretty good. H said something about his S14 doing wrong and covering it up just making things worse. I smiled and left the room. I came back, and H said "I feel like the pot calling the kettle black." I sat on his lap and smiled again and asked "Still feeling guilty?" (about EA with OW) He laughed and said "Who? Me? Guilty? Nope, not a guilty bone in my body. Not a sarcastic bone either." I laughed with him and said, "There's nothing I can say or do to help you get over that guilt. All I can tell you is that I have always believed in you. I may not have believed your words, but I have always known inside you are a good person. Your moral core is very strong and I trusted in you to do the right thing. You did do the right thing in the end. We all make mistakes, that's all you did was make a mistake."

He brightened at this thought and actually started having a good night from there on out. I pulled him on top of me and we talked for an hour or so, then feel asleep in each other's arms.

Later, we woke up to get ready for bed. I had voiced my concern about his drinking for a few (work) nights in a row, so he hadn't had anything to drink. I said I would take the dogs out because he looked tired. (It's his "job" to take them out at night.) He looked guilty. I took them out and then came back in. I told him that I had seen that guilty look and I had something to say. I told him "You have been working 12 hour days. It's draining you emotionally, physically and mentally. You are MORE than doing your part for this family. So, if I want to show my appreciation for you by doing one of your chores, I feel you should let me."

Again, he seemed to appreciate this and gave me a hug. We went to bed and for the first time in days, he didn't seem depressed or down. He held me and we slept great through the night. He actually looked rested this morning. Gave me a hug on the way out and had more of a happy tone to his voice.

Tonight we go out for his S14's bday. He told his boss he had to leave on time. He's very frustrated he actually has to ask if he can leave on his scheduled time. I hope he makes it so we can get to the restaurant. He will be devastated if he has to stay late.