I agree with all of the points you guys are saying. The way I interpret this situation is that SJ has had enough of waiting around while her H sits in his cave. Its been two years since her original posting and shes ready to walk away from the cave. I agree that going into the cave and trying to pull him out isnt going to accomplish anything, but leaving a trail of crumbs at the entrance MIGHT work.
You can see some of the goals and stuff I recommended ^^^. Keep it all very low pressure and look for small steps.
