Good morning Painter. Thank You for your response.
Here are the answers to the questions:
I believe I've asked this before, but never saw an answer - but why are you going along with her decisions on this? Is she holding something over your head?
*** Nothing being held over my head. I was trying to keep things as normal for the kids as possible. Possibly hoping that she would come to her senses and return. That doesn't seem likely to happen. The distance seems to have made her more intent on staying with her decision to do split up. I'm certain that her mother in a nat in her ear saying that she leave me. Trust me I am not making things up about her mother when I say she is a man hating self righteous woman who has problems. My wife doesn't see it and thinks her mom is the greatest thing since Jesus. I could go on, but will stop about her mother. ***
Where do they go to school? Has she changed their address? If she has, you can go and tell the school it was not with your permission, and get it changed back.
***The kids go to school where their mother moved them to. I will ask my Attorney, but they already started school two weeks ago. Honestly, I was hoping that wife came back after a month, but it didn't happen. Of course my DB hasn't worked because it's taken me a while to actually stay true to no contact...it's hard with kids so I refuse to stay away from speaking to them and let them think I don't care about them.
***For now, I will do better and not speak to their mom, my wife about anything at all except the kids. ***
Did you talk to an attorney? It sounds like you need to do that very quickly, if you haven't already.
I have been working and waiting for a friend who is caught up in mid trial, so today I am going to see another about my situation. I know, but again was hoping that wife would change her mind and hasn't.
I know that I have made every mistake possible. It's not easy being all over the place scared, hurt, and confused. The most important people in my life are not here anymore (wife and kids). My wife only seems to care about her and getting away from me thinking only the worst of me and I have only been about family and the kids.
I want to Divorce Bust my situation so bad. I haven't done even a fair job...but poor job at it. I am going to have to do better. I have almost given up but will not because I love my kids too much to give up. Now my feeling about my wife have gone all over the board. Sometimes it's love, sometimes it's hate.
I tell myself that I can do better in terms of a wife or partner, but do I really want to go there. I know she and I can work at a new relationship but she is so far gone with the advice she is getting it is very disheartening.
All Hope I have is for the three boys right now. Issues like my boys, especially my youngest who is two, will live with another man if my wife hooks up with one. It drives me crazy!!!
Anyway, as you can see I have a lot to deal with and don't even know where to start and what to do.
