haunted, I'm sorry you are having a difficult time, but I want you to know that you aren't alone. None of us knew that we were going to be here and dealing w/MLC. MLC was something that wasn't discussed many, many years ago and now it's discussed quite openly and people are making films about it.
As for him being on line, negotiating and discussing what this woman can do for him, there's nothing you can do about it. This is his journey to make on his own. You can't help him, but you need to make sure your accounts, credit cards and assets are okay.
No, his behavior isn't odd. It's something many of them do during the crisis and they do tend to have memory lapses. So, you might want to gently ask him if he's still planning to have his daughter Friday evening. I wouldn't want my child to be around someone who is planning something like this, but maybe he's getting a sitter or he could have forgotten that the little one is coming over. You've got plenty of time to ask him what his plans may be for the weekend and go from there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
