My H is 29, I am 33. I know it is little early for a MLC, but I feel there are some signs that point to it. Him not really having any real reasons to leave. He also has recently become friends with several 24 year olds. We opened a gaming store together almost 2 years ago and I think he is finding out it is more of a responsibility than he originally intended. The gaming store was his childhood dream and I think part of him is scared of failing. Before running the store, he hopped from job to job and pretty much just showed up for a paycheck - he had no real commitment to the job.
The store is over an hour away from our home and in the 6 months or so, he would come home later and later each night. I spent my weekends helping him at the store to spend time with him. His new apartment is in the same town as the store is in.
I have always been the breadwinner in our relationship, supporting him financially, especially since opening the store.
I have read DR and several of the threads on this forum. I have been trying the LRT, but I don't know how well I have been doing at it. I haven't begged him to come back or told him I loved him since the BD. I have pursued him somewhat, but I stopped in the last 2 weeks.
I did agree to meet with him yesterday. He told me he is really happy now and he hasn't been happy for at least 3 years. He also now thinks he never really wanted to marry me. He did not ask for a divorce or anything and what he said seemed to be well-scripted in his head. I asked him why he couldn't wait another month to see if this is really what he wanted. He said he respected me too much to keep leading me on. To which I said, he didn't respect me enough to try to work on our marriage. I asked him once if he wanted to try to work on it and he said he doesn't. He said he loves me, but he is not in love with me and he has no romantic feelings for me whatsoever. He truly believes he is happy being on his own after 4 weeks.
I asked him if he regretted marrying me. He said no because he enjoyed a lot of the experiences we shared. I interrupted him and implied that he wouldn't have the store (the source of his supposed newfound happiness) without me. After that he stormed out without and left without saying goodbye.
He has since defriended me on facebook. The store has a facebook page and he removed me from that. He also changed his status to remove that he is married. I think the last comment I made has really upset him and I think I ruined all chances of getting back together with him.
Has anyone else's spouses left and said they were happier than the have been in a long time after leaving?
I don't believe he is truly happy now. He lived in apartments before, but he always had a roommate. He has never lived on his own before and I think he is enjoying the novelty of it more than being happy. I know he hasn't been unhappy for years. Ever since we started the store, he has seemed happier than ever. I think seeing his "friend" a three months ago is what has changed his feelings for me. He is rewriting the past to make himself feel better for doing this to me.
I do believe he is making the biggest mistake of his life and he will regret it someday. I just keep waiting for the fog to clear on his new infatuation with his "friend." He is still insistent that they are "just friends."
