With my wife gone I’ve had time to think about my part in her leaving. I don’t condone her affair but I have realized I had been focusing on my pain when maybe I should have been thinking more of hers.
Very self aware thinking. I think the challenge is having a balance. The state of the relationship and the affair are two different things. Yes, your actions contributed to a relationship where an affair could occur, but that choice was entirely hers. So be compassionate and understanding, but don't be a doormat
Originally Posted By: SMXL5
I have not felt this heartbroken since I was a teenager, I feel like I’m in the fog too.
I can't imagine a pain like this. And it lasts as long as it takes to resolve things and beging to heal. I have heard, "It would be easier if my spouse had died", and that physiologically, the same pain centers in the brain triggered in physical pain are triggered by this emotional pain. And our own actions of wanting to reconcile or see things through a fuzzy filter are our own fog.
H:54 W:46 D:11 D:21 M:12 BD:1/15 In-house Separation 2/15 DB started 7/15, W sees consistency 9/15 Dropping the rope and having her leave 2/16, moves 5/16 Reconciliation 1/17 Obviously still struggling
