I assume OW has no idea what is going on I'm sure he tells her he is faithful to her! Them being together caused her a divorce! Yes he has some serious infidelity issues but I also allow them!help with them as I stated I usually start messing around and goes along very seldom does he instigate it. She is his gf in her eyes and his! In my eyes he cheated on me with her that is his cycle And he can't care to much if he still ml with me but I know that's denial speaking he could truly love her and not be in a fog it's been a year already!
As for making changes I want to make them for me. I want to be healthy for me and the kids! It would be nice if recognizes the changes and they helped save my family but ultimately they are for me with or without him! I do not like the way life has gone so far so I need to do something different!
No I do not want casual I want a committed healthy relationship where we truly feel for each other accept flaws communicate and faithfulness! If he can not provide that then he can't I will be ok!
As for him seeing the changes that seems to be the theme stay as long as you can buy time and work on you so they can see the changes and decide if they are coming along or not! I may have misunderstood that though
