EMMess, sorry to hear you keep backpeddling, you really have to control your emotions. Don't let her boss you around, sometimes not saying a thing to her is the best thing.
Pretend she is a roommate and treat her a such. She is no longer your wife, you need to understand that, she needs to do things on her own for herself and so do you.
Keep GAL and journaling, it helps a lot!
Keep praying, be patient, slow to anger, no point in pushing her further away...
