hold on!! - 12

[PeterV2]

Sounds like it went as well as can be expected. I too am uncomfortable with the "I wish you were dead" attitude. Not something very endearing.

Congratulations. You've taken a major step to get your life back. When I went through divorcing my first W it was a stressful time indeed. Remember to involve not only your L, but your accountant as well. I failed to do this and really got the short end of the stick and it took me 5 years to get it fixed by citing the "material change of circumstances" clause in the separation agreement which was the only safety valve available to make any change to the agreement. That bad agreement was also a thorn in the side of my current marriage and was a contributing factor to my current W becoming a WAW.

So make sure your agreement is fair. Your ex will scream and quote all sorts of man-hating spew, perhaps even play the victim and tug on your heart strings to get more money out of the deal. Stand firm and make sure your accountant is onside.

Also give it a year before you get involved with anyone else if you can at all help it. I jumped in too early after my first marriage, before the dust had settled and a lot of that dust got into my current W's eyes and she's still got it so much in her eyes that she can't see reality.