Hi Lost, welcome to the club that no-one wants to join. I'm sorry for your situation, but glad you have found the forum. I notice you decided to post in MLC, can you give us a few details about your H? How old is he and what made you decide to post in this area? Have you read much about MLC at all?

For most men who leave, there is normally a woman somewhere in the wings. As you say, it is likely at least an EA from your description. As for meeting up, when you do - be aware that the more you resist (you haven't given this enough time, we agreed 3 months) the more he is likely to want out. My advice would be to dig deep, listen (really listen) to what he has to say, and if he wants to D, say to him you are sorry he feels the need to take this step but you respect his choice and won't stand in the way if this is what he wants. You can also let him know that D isn't your choice and that you won't enable a D that you don't want.

He then may or may not follow through with that. Your response may surprise him and stop him in his tracks perhaps? Have you read DB or DR? I recommend DR as the more up to date of the two and it also has a chapter on MLC. I have also found the stuff on the Hearts Blessings website useful. Have a read of some of the sitches in this part of the forum too. There are some wise posters here...

Above all, look after you as best you can, focus on not making things worse (by pressuring, begging etc.) and keep your head above water. You are on a rocky path here and things may get worse before they get better.

Take care, Sotto xx

Last edited by Sotto; 08/31/15 08:16 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus