Have i been making mistakes too long part 5

[tkdmme]

Sandi,

I understand all of this except the last one.

"Ability to let people I love and care for accept personal responsibility for their own actions (and to bail them out when their actions lead to failure or trouble for them)".

Is this right? Am I supposed to bail my W out when her actions lead to failure?

I am doing a lot better with the DBing and I think you are right when you say she is mirroring what she sees. I want things to work so badly and im sick of my family telling me to give up and hers telling me that I cant give up.

My IC tells me that I am still the man of the house and even if she says she wants a D I cant be the one to leave. I feel that I have been exhibiting the PMA and the kids have responded incredibly. The 180 I am most proud of is spending a lot more time with the kids. They treat me much differently than before.

My D12 has started talking to me about boys. Not that I want to hear that. she is only in the 7th grade. However this is something she has never talked to me about before. We are growing so close. Both of the boys have really taken notice in the new me. We play golf together and backyard base ball. They have all started coming to me for help with their homework and telling me all about their lives.

I love my family and want nothing more than to have all of us together in the future. The things im learning here do work. I have been supportive of the W without trying to fix things for her. She wants to start taking pictures again. She is a great photographer.

I guess things aren't that bad. We get along fine as long as I don't bring up any M conversations. However im pretty sure she still wants a D.