By detaching I mean that I'm not starting conversations, I'm not asking where she is or what she is doing, I haven't called or texted her in weeks. Basically I'm doing my own thing. Staying out of the house when feasible. I haven't spoke with her much at all. And like the rules, when she does say something to me I am short and to the point. I just feel kind of selfish.
So, this is not pursuing. Which is good. But it isn't detaching. I'd recommend reading the detachment thread again.
Originally Posted By: tkdmme
If I have missed something about detach, what is it? I know it does seem so but I'm not focused on her every move. And I don't expect anything from her. I take care of the kids and help them with homework. I have reconnected with tons of friends that I haven't talked to in a while. I have booked a piano job every week through october.
I just worry about her and her health. She looks unhealthy.
Detaching is about your emotions. It's about separating your emotions from the ups and downs that she's going through.
It's ok to worry about her. Just don't try to FIX her problems. Validate her feelings.
