We are on the brink

[WhyUs]

Jenny, wow! you are in a tough spot. I wonder how many wives feel this way before dropping the bomb on their husbands. We know that for men actions do speak louder than words. You could tell him a 1000 times in 1000 different ways and he may not be hearing you. I am not there so I cannot say for sure.

It sounds like you are starting to build resentment towards him and lose respect for him. To see a woman feel the way you feel hurts my heart because I wonder if my WW felt this way about me. I wish I could go back in time and change the necessary things to fix our M.

I wonder if your husband knows what is coming, what he is doing. I hope he does not get the BD and then realize he has to start trying while you have already given up.

I think you should stay with DB and perhaps get a coach.

I will say that one approach that may help with the money is to approach it as though you need his help. Men like to feel like they are helping fix something. They are problem solvers. Be careful not to criticize his ideas, even if they are dumb. If he has a way to come up with a new budget just say, wow, I never thought of doing it that way. (Your R is fragile so he may not be able to handle the normal debate).

I will post as more ideas come to mind.