Morning Jim, hope you had a good day yesterday. Looks like it's going to be a rainy one today - no bike rides for you I'm guessing!

I agree with Stacey - one does tend to look happy when one is dosed up on a mix of 'in love' chemicals. However, we all know the trajectory that A's with foundations of lies and deceit take. I read about a piece of research recently on male A's. Of around 4000 high achieving males who had As, just 3% of those led to M, of which 75% failed. Fact is these Rs tend to be doomed. Sadly your W and many other APs don't realise that yet.

Yes, it's possible that your W's A may be one of the tiny number that makes it. And I think many of us feel the same way about A's in our sitches. I guess time will tell - and your sitch is similar to mine right now. What I ask myself is - would I actually be doing anything differently right now if I chose to completely give up on a possible R? Not really - not ready for dating and best just to focus on healing, space and distance, my life, and being generally pleasant, brief but cooperative...with an open mind about what may unfold in my future.

I'm volunteering at the bookstore today. It's a nice plan for a rainy bank holiday. Hope you have some nice plans today too Jim xx

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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus