I'm so happy you have such a great relationship with your kids. That really is awesome!

I have noticed a trend that you may want to take a look at. You have very little face to face contact with your XW. I feel like when you do you are avoiding having conversation/interactions with her, you are focusing solely on your kids. If your goal is still to reconcile you may need to step out of your comfort zone here and interact with her on some level. Make eye contact, ask how she's doing (if she has interests/hobby, her job, anything other than the kids). If I were in her shoes I would not see that you are interested in R at all, I would probably think you have moved on. Experiment (baby steps), what's the worst that can happen? She'll reject you? She already has...(words of wisdom from my sister!)

Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since