I totally understand where you're coming from and it seems like you have a new vision of where to take things, that's great! The old me was more pursuing/available too, of course we want physical contact and to do tons of stuff with them, but yeh- think it only made H pull away more. For me, realizing H shows love in a different way than I do was huge. Also my advice for the year would be Michele's classic, " S's tend to speak the negatives, because THEY are hurting and scared." Like underneath H's "I don't want to hurt you, you're hurting" is his feeling of inadeaquacy for making you unhappy. He's not measuring up, he's done failed. Men want to make their women happy, it's a great source of pride- but don't often know how, or think they are trying, and don't understand exactly why things aren't working- Little things can set it off, especially if they've gotten the vibe for a long time that we are "busting their balls" or are upset a lot. It's great to come to a new level of understanding, we can only look forward to amazing R's !
Master the self-fulfilling prophecy.. Act 'as if' it's going to happen and make it be!!
