11 Months Later... STBX Keeps Insisting On Talking

[HPoirot]

Hey Zues. Thank you for the support of my approach to my relations with STBX.

Since she asked if I was willing to talk about us, I have second guessed my reply... no R talk while OM.

Part of me is still in that mindset of talking her out of all this. If only we could connect again.

Experience, though, says this is not a good approach. My own experience, and of others I read on this board.

I think of good, strong, patient men like Peter_v2 and Rzrback/NH115. They see their Ws everyday, it seems to me, going from almost back in the R to running for the hills. It seems extremely painful to me. I do not think I could do what they do given the history of my sitch.

And yes, I know you and others are against my moving to Florida... being a WAH. All I can say is, a move like this is something she and I have considered for more than a decade. She knew I wanted this and would bring up her letting S12 live with me there even before I left the house. It was part of her "crazy" dream where we would all get what we want.

Well, now we are at the reality phase. She'll have to find a way through it.

I want to make clear... my moving has nothing to do with her. Making her feel sorry or punishing her or anything like that. She has suggested she thinks that way too... but there's nothing I can do about how she feels except be clear in my plans and do my best to make sure S12 lands down there in the best way possible.

The IC that all of us, S12 included, has seen knows of my move and desire to take S12 with me. I will also consult with her and take S12 to see her as well.

I am trying to do this in the best way possible. I do appreciate your keeping me honest Zues.