If your W is in any type of an A, then her heart is wayward. WW is only a term I use, and I maintain that a man cannot afford to show his more lenient side to her---as long as she is in an A, is disresptful, resentful, and rebellious to him. She sees his leniency as weakness.
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I have a question, did you ever have pushback from H, making your way back excessively hard and you think why am I doing this ?.. And if you did ..what helped? .what kept you committed?
Not sure exactly how you mean "pushback" from my H. He didn't do anything to make it excessively hard, but honestly, if I had thought he was dumping me.......I think the fog would have started clearing a lot faster. I did question myself. The point is that I was addicted to the feeling the A gave me. It's like choosing your M over your drug of choice.
The stark reality that suddenly hit me, was what worked to break through the fog. When I knew I could not lie to my adult children b/c I had been caught.
What kept me committed was this board! Not too many waywards show up on the board, but I did......and I had some very wise mentors.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
