Let's All Be Like Coffee

[V2pt0]

Feeling much better the past couple of days due to exercise and GAL. Yesterday I spent the day going for a long morning walk, going to the local farmer's market, shopping, and lunch. You really find out who your friends are when times are tough like this, but you also realize how quick people are to be pro-divorce. They only mean well and they just want to see your pain end and want you to be happy. I feel like this might be the only solution my H has been hearing from the beginning. I believe the OW comes from a divorced family and a mother type figure he also works with is a divorcee. She took my H under her wings as soon as he started his new job. At one point early on H said that he talked to people who said that D is not so bad. So sad.

While I feel filing was the only viable next step, I am by no means content about the decision and I still have lots of unresolved feelings. My H has no remorse for A and felt it was ok to keep disrespecting me by bringing her into my home. I am not sure what else I could have done. That being said, I 100% believe it is unnecessary in our case. If only both of us were willing to put in the hard work. Another M unnecessarily on the road to becoming part of the D stats. There has been no word from my H in response to my L's emails. My L asked if I have heard from him and I said no. I do wonder if some panic is setting in. As I said, I don't really think my H thought about this in detail. We are trying to set the initial status hearing. Looks like the the best viable date is the day before our wedding anniversary. There is a small part of me that still hopes that my H will wake up and realizes what a mistake this is. I am not expecting it though.

For the vets, what is the best course of action with my H as far as interactions at this point? Going dark, LRT, dim??