Thank you for your kind words. They are comforting to me.
My XW genuinely seems to believe she is the victim of abuse perpetrated by me and she has repeatedly described me as 'abusive'.
That hurts and worries me even if I don't think it's fair, because her feeling it's true is as valid as mine that it's not.
And the crux is that I know at times I didn't support her as she needed me to and that at times I sulked rather than acting with more confidence and integrity.
I can work on it for the future but can't undo what's done.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
