Need advice for a WW who left Part 3

[dwh15]

No issues here V. Haven't posted today because I have been out all day with GAL activities. Had a 4-man golf scramble starting at 10am, which took nearly 6 hours. Then back to the local clubhouse for a dinner, some drinks and playing horseshoes with some friends. Didn't get home until around 8pm. Full day having fun and mostly enjoyed it, other than having a few down moments because nearly everyone I was with was a couple.

I see what you're saying about WW. My thought was that I am already paying to provide meals to the kids every night. The money is to help WW buy food and have her prepare meals. I made that very clear. If she does not follow through on making meals, and I don't just mean mac n cheese either, then there will be no more cash assistance. I only gave her enough to get through one week, with no promises about any more coming, other than we would see how it went.

I'm keeping track of what the kids eat, because I ask them every time they come home. I also find out if WW spent any other money on them. So far, it seems like she really is using it to help the kids. She took S18 out today and got him a baseball cap. I suppose I could refuse to help at all, but I'm trying to let the kids have a relationship with mom, and not get them caught in the middle of all this. If I feel that I'm being taken advantage of, I will immediately stop.

On other news, I met one of WW's supposed very good friends tonight. I've known about her for a while, and heard her name dozens of times, but never met her in person. Her and her husband were at the clubhouse for my charity, and I recognized their names. Introduced myself as the H of WW. They both looked shocked, then he shook my hand and she gave me a big hug. Turns out they knew what had been going on, felt very bad for me, and had discontinued spending time with WW quite a while ago. WW had always said this friend was one of the places she was frequently spending overnights and I found out that she actually only ever spent 1 night there in the past year. One! WW had told me she was over there at least 2-3 times a week for the past year before DDay.

The sheer amount of deceit continues to boggle my mind. So the upside is that we exchanged cell numbers and I have an open invitation to come and visit them any time I want. They have met all my kids and seem like really nice people. I keep picking up the friends that WW is leaving behind. My social circle is rapidly expanding while hers continues to shrink. I know that she sees the activity on my FB page, because she mentioned some of these friends recently on our phone call, which I was suprised to hear; I had assumed she didn't bother checking on me at all.

So my WW is noticing my GAL with all the new activity and with the stuff I do with the kids. She knows I have a new job and am going to be doing well financially while she struggles just to put food on the table. I have no doubt her fantasy will continue to crumble, and then no idea what's going to happen. I've come to the realization that she really is troubled and needs serious therapy to recover. I will not allow her back into the house with me and the boys until she starts down that path. It may never come, but happily, I really am beginning to believe the rest of us will be Ok regardless.