10 Months Later... XW Wants To Talk About Us?

[HPoirot]

Forgot to say... Mozza... about the high bar for her to engage me...

I made clear in January that, under current conditions, I would engage her only about S12 and only over email. She has been testing me on that constantly since then.

At the beginning of this thread, when she asked if I would be willing to talk about us, I said yes I would be willing. Just not while she was in contact with OM.

That is more than reasonable. If she really wanted to talk... that is a low bar to hurdle. Her decision told me all I needed to know.

I would say I'm not digging in heels angry. I'm just keeping my word and respecting myself. It's clear and consistent.... no R talks with someone who is not really there with me. No convincing or pleading or name calling(like she still does... this time about me not moving and saying I'm not wanting to be a consistent part of S12's life by doing so).

If someone has a better way for me to do this... please I want to know. Her letter baring her soul about talking about us sounded like more "why can't you just do what I want you to do" which she immediately took back when I tested her. When I tested her on her proposal to make the move to Florida with S12 agreement legal... she immediately took it back.

I was warned of this type of behavior when I first got here and still I didn't say "I'm not going to be manipulated anymore" and go to a lawyer.

So now I'm going to a lawyer.

What else can I do?