10 Months Later... XW Wants To Talk About Us?

[HPoirot]

Hello everyone. Thank you for posting the interesting mini discussion here about being a part time but all that you can dad. I believe I have been all that I can be... but, in my case, it doesn't matter with STBX. It goes back and forth here... one moment she says I'm a great dad and have been generous and patient with her. Others I'm a non-communicative ass who needs the courts to take care of me.

I'm sick of it.

There are a lot of posts and questions here I've been intending to reply to. I am very sorry I have not yet.

Thing is, since I started this thread with her asking to talk about us... I've been feeling somewhat down again. Not feeling like writing these posts. No where near where I was at the start of this... but still.

As an update... I postponed my meeting with the lawyer. I could not afford $200 for an hour with him right now. I rescheduled for after September 7th.

In the meantime, I've been working on being more productive and happy in the face of my feelings. That has been going OK.

As for STBX... last night she sent me and email... "We desperately need to talk. Let me know when we can meet."

This after I have told her repeatedly I would discuss anything S12 with her over email.

I shouldn't be moved by things like this but I was a little and paid for it.

I replied "How can I help you STBX?" I actually thought about the response trying to be friendly. I thought it might be nice to talk. I allowed myself to think about an outcome.

Reply... "If you have to ask, I guess we still need that court date. You said you would get back to me ASAP about your move. Oh well."

Something like that.

I did not bite... "STBX. Yes, this is important. I will get back to you ASAP."

I'm tired. Sick and tired.

I realize I made a mistake believing she would not change her mind about S12 moving with me to Florida for 7th grade. I should have got the agreement she proposed legal right then.

Thing is... if I don't move... I may lose my job (they just fired most of my team) and have to take a job where I don't get paid as much and do not have the flexibility for S12 of working from home like I do now.

So, I'm just going to make my case to her... let her know all about my job status... re-propose her proposal... and say I'll pay part of her travel to FL for visits, visit S12 here once a month until he moves, and pay for the lawyer to make the agreement legal.

If she can't do that, I file with the lawyer for custody and to have S12 move with me. That and I stop paying for the private school here if the lawyer says that is a good idea. I'll homeschool S12 if it comes to that.

I'm sick of being threatened with court by this person if I don't answer an email on her schedule.

To answer question... yes I am open to R... but not at any cost. My priority are the goals for me and S12 like the move. I'm at the point now where I have to set up possible Florida schools for S12 and find a place to live b/c I can't stay in this condo past December.

I'm going to send her the email explaining the situation by Monday. If she doesn't agree to basically her own proposal... lawyers will have to figure it out.

Am I wrong?