rottzilla I just breezed through your thread and it looks to me that you are doing great. I like the idea of the gym and the bike. The bike gets you outside and a workout can really make one feel better about themselves.
In reading your recent posts it made me feel better about life in general. I have a little more hope now. Thanks.
Last night I was not the brightest bulb in the pack. We have a guy here at work that came from our Midwest plant. He reminds me very much of H. So, a few coworkers were going out to show him a good time. I went along and invited H. They have the same job, similar sense of humor, and even look similar. They hit it off and were talking shop all night. One coworker kept ordering drinks and soon we wound up back at their house to play pool. 2 am we decide to head home, and H wants ML until 3, so here I am, with 2 hours sleep trying to figure out what happened.
This guy drank too much and started telling me I was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. He said he had been watching me all week. Every time H went in the other room or to the bathroom, he would touch me and I would have to tell him to back off because I was married. Interesting. H never saw any of it... even though the guy wasn't exactly the most stealthy about his actions. I can't believe he didn't see it. Now I'm worried that I did damage by not leaving instead of just keeping this guy at bay by letting him know to back off. I'm wondering if H is distancing because he did see some of it and thinks I would have done something. At one point, I took the guy in the kitchen and told him, look, you're a nice guy and I like you, but I am married and I do NOT cheat on my H. H may have thought we were doing something in there?
Maybe it's just the mood he was in today, with very little sleep, that is making him distant. I will have to watch over the next couple of days for the fallout, and I hope I didn't do serious damage.
WOW! I hope having another man hit on you helped your PMA. It would be good for H to see that you can move on if you had to. I bet H saw more than you realize!!
Quote: He said he had been watching me all week. Every time H went in the other room or to the bathroom, he would touch me
Eeewww. Creep alert! I would be decisive and firm in situations like this. In my estimation (and from my own experience with female comer-onners), a really good way to handle situations like this is to tell them right off the bat that you are sorry but have absolutely NO interest in other men, that you are very happy with your H and your M (whether its true or not), and immediately start telling over the top cute and happy stories about you and your H and how amazingly perfect you are for each other. It generally works.
And while its no good to overanalyze or make a big convo out of it on so little sleep, I think you should let H know later today or tomorrow. This is just my opinion, others may have a different opinion.
Woman! Have you ever noticed that sometimes you can't accept when things are going good!!!
Let me seeeeeee ............ My hubby took me out for FUN all night, I was hit on by another charming man, told I looked beautiful by hubby AND another guy, had to fight a guy off by taking him into the kitchen, hubby is all over me in an affectionate way, takes me home to ML and cuddle........ but wait!!! All I can think is 'I hope I didn't do too much damage.'
Sometimes woman. TO THE MOON, rottz!!!!
Get that smile back on your face, and enjoy the day!!
I still have my 80s leopard spandex, does that work?
Dazed, I actually just laughed out loud. I'm sorry, I have had no sleep, you are absolutely correct. How stupid of me. I am smiling so much right now, thanks.
Everyone, you are so great, I love this BB and all of you help so much. Thank you.
Renew, I thought I made it clear to this guy. He's not a creep, really, he is cute and shy, and like I said, so similar to H that he could be his brother. He apologized for letting himself get out of control this morning and looked very upset.
What I actually found out from H when I talked to him about what happened is that I didn't think like a guy (for once). I told this guy that I think he is cute and nice and fun, but there is no way now or ever that I would ever cheat on my H. My H says that by saying nice things, the guy probably thinks "she likes me but wants me to try harder." H says that is just the way guys think. And here I am thinking I made it clear. Oh well, he goes back to the Midwest tomorrow morning, so no worries.
I'm going home tonight to look for my official groupie uniform for Dazed's tour. Anyone else joining us?
Hey, one thing H did say that *pleased the heck out of me* last night... We were sitting there and my friend has a red stuffed gorilla, and so does my H. A friend at work bought it for him as a V day gift. He had told me it was his FF that I like. After admitting EA, I thought it may have been from OW. That's when I bought it a leather neckband so that I "personalized" it (aka "claiming my territory.")
Anyway, I got a bit nasty when she said "my honey bought it for me..." I then started to say "so did his..." Of course, I have no proof of that, and he may just as well have been telling the truth about it. I stopped and apologized and said, "residual emotion, I was just getting nasty and hurt."
H then said, in very sincere, forceful, reassuring tone, "BELIEVE me, there's absolutely NOTHING that should make you feel like that." Which I took to mean "hey, it's in the past and means nothing to me, at least not compared to you... Maybe my take was wrong, but I think I was on the money.
Quote: He's not a creep, really, he is cute and shy, and like I said, so similar to H that he could be his brother. He apologized for letting himself get out of control this morning and looked very upset.
My misunderstanding--I may have been projecting. W has had clients hit on her in the past--part of being in sales is people mistaking your enthusiasm in doing your job of selling things for personal interest in them. One of them was particularly creepy, and he just didn't get the hint no matter how clear she tried to make it.
