Today my stbx came to pick up the trailer so he and my son can go cut/split about 3 cords of wood for the winter. Usually last 2 years. Nice of him!
I kind of had a flashback this last week when my girlfriend's daughter broke up with her boyfriend. I felt like she was living my life. Her boyfriend had a rough upbringing. They are 22. He likes to party, drink too much and hang out with his friend. He is verbally abusive to her as well. I had to tell her that is life with an alcoholic even high functioning is unhealtjy. She is young and does not need that in her life she can't change him, alcohol always win over our relationship. It was really sad as I was telling her this. She like me is a fixer and thinks that she can fix him.
I am also very codependent and grew up with an alcoholic father but she didn't. And I think it is easier for her to see now and end the relationship unlike me.
Also adding that my stbx was raised in an alcoholic family i to think he is codependent. Which makes sense as to why he always seems to come back, want to text,help out, etc and now go to get wood. All of this when he has a new "the love of his life" for the last almost 2 years. Maybe since she's long distance and the only sister on weekends he still needs a fix? I don't know? Yes unless I figure out my codependency issue and how to stop it will continue. Most of the "love" he was there but I just can't let him go and be a part of my life. My father left when I was young, alcoholic and verbally abusive and I guess that has affected me I don't want to lose stbx as being a part of my family. I am okay with the not being love heart but I don't want to lose him as a person in my life.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
