Jim0987 #15 - Further on up the road

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Hi Jim, I'm back home again and just checking in on you. I agree with RD, of course you feel the way you do. It's not nice feeling that way, but it is perfectly understandable and healthy too. We have all suffered (and are suffering) important losses in our lives and that is painful. We get through it as best we can, and hope to lay good foundations for a full, happy and authentic life going forwards.

I understand what you say about - perhaps I should have filed then I would have some control. Something that has helped me is to just stop any resistance to what is happening. To absolutely accept that my H is divorcing me. To respect this is what he wants to do. To wish him well (that one sticks a little.....it's a work in progress...)

You told your W how you felt and there was a little truth dart in there. That's fine, and I would leave it now. It is what it is. And focus on the guy you want to be during this legal process, so that 2,3,5 years down the line, you are happy with Jim and how he handled things during a tough time.

Do you have any GAL plans tonight?? I'm a bit exhausted and will be having dinner on the couch & maybe watch a bit of TV. hope you have a nice evening, whatever you are up to. I'll check in later to see if you're posting. Take care xx