My husband of almost 4 years told me 2 months ago that he was unhappy and had been for a long time and he was missing pieces. He wanted to separate and he was going to find an apartment closer to his job. He said I was negative and I ruined every experience he has had. He missed adventuring and I was to blame. We agreed to separate for at least 3 months and re-evaluate the situation. He moved out almost a month ago and I have barely heard from him since. Before he left, he said he would see me on Monday's, but he hasn't seen me any of those days. He has been facebook messaging an old girlfriend of his for several years. She lives over 3,000 miles away and he says they are just friends. He saw her in May for the first time in years. I believe he is having an emotional affair with her, but he can't see that is what it is.
He now asked if I was busy on Monday (which I am and I replied as much). He asked when I was free and said he needed to talk to me. I have a feeling he is going to ask for a divorce. He stopped wearing his ring and told his mom that he didn't want to lead me on.
We very rarely fought and had a good marriage. This is all coming as a shock to me and he does not want to do anything to fix the problems. I don't believe he has given this enough time or thought to be able to ask me for a divorce. I want to tell him that he needs to give it more time to think about if this is what he really wants. We did agree to separate at least 3 months. Should I ask him to wait another month and see how he feels then? Or is that just delaying the inevitable? Or pushing him farther away? I want our marriage to work and I think we can come out of this stronger and with a better marriage.
