I'm working backwards through these posts (and I do appreciate all of them) thank you.
Vanilla,
I feel like I need to tell WW tomorrow morning. The way things are going, she will find out from the mail tomorrow anyway.

I don't think that I can get to the kids before that as they will be scattering and doing fun saturday things with their friends (I am so glad they have good friends).

So Friday's lie didn't happen, she came home, didn't go to the concert that she bought tickets to many months ago. This could mean many things (on outs with OM, OM couldn't go, or anything else). But I guess it doesn't matter too much either way (I thought of the you and me against the world aspect of the announcement and was why I didn't want to tell her before tonight).

So I have these things that are steering me. Saturday's mail and sunday's big family lunch with my parents.

I would have liked to have told her on Monday after all of this. But I think I have to beat Saturday's mail.

I don't think I want to say a lot to her but maybe:

e-mail or text her that I would like to talk to her Saturday morning and it is pretty important.

then for the conv.

W-Though this is very painful for me, I have decided to move this forward and have filed for divorce. You will be served sometime within the next week or so. I hope we can work together to tell the kids and I know we can work together to co-parent them too.

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That's it - I don't know if anything else needs to be said at this time. I could go on and on about my feelings or what I wanted before I decided this, but it has fallen on deaf ears before and I don't want her to ask me to reconsider (if she were to want that).


Me-45 W-44
S21, S18, D15
T-27, M-21
BD Jan 2014
PA revealed March 2014
In-house separation - April 2015
I filed - Aug 2015
She moved out Oct 2015